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03/04/2019 2:57 pm  

Making people you care about mad isn't great.


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03/04/2019 3:04 pm  

Of course, absolutely. But that doesn’t answer the question about why she gets mad. My question was looking for the logic of the situation. And of course, I’m implying there is none, outside of a  legitimate situation such as the parent example, rather than “I personally don’t like that you have this many snowboards.”

If we are going with the typical deal, which doesn’t require logic for someone’s spouse to be mad and effectively dictate your personal choices, then.....

Just trying to stir the pot and poke the bear 😈

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03/04/2019 3:13 pm  

Stereotypically, women like purses and shoes. I can't even being to imagine the trouble I would get into if I even mentioned to a girl that she had too many pairs of shoes or purses.  Equal rights. But some are more equal than others


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03/04/2019 3:16 pm  

When you get married your "individual" choices aren't always individual any more. I can't speak to other folks' arrangement, but my wife doesn't really give a fuck about how much stuff I pick up as long as I'm not spending absurd amounts of money on it (I try to keep it revenue neutral anyway). When our kids were young and our budget was much tighter it would have been much different though.


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03/04/2019 3:17 pm  
Posted by: Peter

Stereotypically, women like purses and shoes. I can't even being to imagine the trouble I would get into if I even mentioned to a girl that she had too many pairs of shoes or purses.  Equal rights. But some are more equal than others

lol, I catch more shit for my shoes (and travel for soccer games) than my snowboard gear.


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03/04/2019 3:18 pm  

And that’s part of what I’m saying. There are, of course, many legitimate reasons to not spend too much money on toys when you are married, and especially a parent, but we know that is not the most common reason behind it. They just don’t like it, and we don’t like them being mad at us, regardless of any logic, and that’s part of the gaaaaaame

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03/04/2019 3:24 pm  

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03/04/2019 3:25 pm  
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depending on how big your split quiver is, 3 is totally reasonable! my wife friggin hates my whoring, but has allowed me 5 boards at any one time. i'm working on getting the 2 i've won in waffles not to count  😝 

Haha I already secured a 5 board limit from the future wife. I'm actually only at 4 right now: United Shapes Cadet, Rome Blur, Moss PQ54, and a Rome White Room Split.

The limitation at this point isn't really her at this point, it's more my own time. I'm a dedicated weekend warrior, but it's not like I'm putting in 100+ days. I rode close to 30 days this year and didn't make full use of everything in the quiver. I rode the PQ54 and Cadet a ton, but I rode the Blur maybe two full days in total. Until I took it out for a few turns last weekend, I'd honestly forgotten what it rode like since I hadn't put significant time on it since the end of last season. I've ridden the split a couple times inbounds to dial in my stance and bindings, but I've yet to get the chance to properly tour this season. I can afford to have toys lying around collecting dust, it just doesn't sit well with me either financially or pragmatically.

And this season, I still have plenty of riding left (resorts will be open another few weeks, Squaw will be open into July, and I should be able to tour into August). But in a future state with young kids, I doubt I'll get more than 5 days a year until they're old enough to ride with me. I think I'll likely be too busy trying to keep them alive rather than dealing with 8-hour round trip day trips. And in that state, I'd rather just have probably 2 boards, a solid and a split (and I'm not even sure if I'll be able to justify the split).


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03/04/2019 3:26 pm  

When you meet a girl, explain to her that snowboarding is a big part of your life and it will always be that way. 

Compared to my  friends with boats, cars and motorcycles, my hobby is super cheap and I point this out to my wife constantly. 


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03/04/2019 3:31 pm  
Posted by: highme

When you get married your "individual" choices aren't always individual any more. I can't speak to other folks' arrangement, but my wife doesn't really give a fuck about how much stuff I pick up as long as I'm not spending absurd amounts of money on it (I try to keep it revenue neutral anyway). 

Though I'm technically someone new to the "married" game, think its more along the lines of what Highme said. My lady prefers that I don't over indulge and/or keep buying new boards constantly without at least selling first, esp if were trying to save for life stuff like down payment for a home etc.

She's also kinda given up on me with regards to the boards, and has somewhat jokingly made a deal that with every new board I buy, she can go on a little trip to somewhere too 😅. But personally, I'm trying to keep my quiver down to around 2-3 boards that I actually will ride frequently, anyway ... being on here def doesn't help with that, though as everyone on here knows all too well haha.

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03/04/2019 3:35 pm  

I don’t know how I could deal with someone who tried to limit what I do in following this one active passion I have, without any real reasoning behind it. Gotta nip that one in the bud.

If you are happily married, or happily a parent, or just happily in a relationship where you share responsibilities, that’s awesome. Right on 👍 and naturally, things change. I was only talking about situations with no logic. I guess it’s a pet peeve. My last relationship was completely devoid of that, granted, she has borderline personality disorder… that sure is a fun one. Luckily that was years ago. Current relationship - it’s never been an issue in the least. She is also an independent person, and sane! However, if I were spending enough of my money to where I couldn’t continue participating in our financial responsibilities, we would have issues, but there is logic behind that.

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03/04/2019 3:50 pm  

Yup, with you on that one Spenser. Thankfully, my lady loves shredding too so that helps a lot, as it's something we're both passionate about. But I'm also thankful that she does help keep me in check so I don't lose sight of life obligations/goals etc outside of snowboarding, as well. 

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03/04/2019 4:17 pm  

I agree with Spenser. If you're spending money that's breaking the household budget that you and your spouse/girlfriend/whatever have put together, then you're being an asshole and a poor partner. If you're operating within your budget, and your partner has the same freedom to do so that you do, then what's up with the arbitrary number of boards you're allowed to have? To me, it just sounds like slipping into tired tropes of the nagging woman and the irresponsible man-child. If snowboarding is an important part of your life, then it is inevitable that you're gonna put resources like time and money into it. It seems reasonable to me that anybody who has a strong, resource-intensive passion/hobby like snowboarding would want to build their romantic relationships in a fashion that didn't ask them to choose between their partner's desires and their own. Also, why would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone where they have to play the role of policing that other person's spending or counting their possessions and ruling on whether or not they get to keep them? That sounds horrendous.


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03/04/2019 4:22 pm  

Living that way is the American dream

I don’t gather that anyone here is actually in that situation (if you are, please reach out, EL is here for you!)

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04/04/2019 1:16 am  

If your girlfrind/wife don t allow this passion , simply, change woman .. i think that there isn't worst thing don t allow to follow some passions in your life.

For example i live together my girlfriend and she hates the mountain so when i ve to do snowboarding i always go alone but its not a problem this.. sometimes she complains when i buy a new board.. i don t listen to her and i say to her to change boyfriend if you don t like my passion, then she doesn't say nothing more 😀

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